This is the question that I asked all the 'experts'who professed to know it all.
This is the question that I stayed up at nightfor years struggling to know the answer.
This is the question that I needed to haveanswered every time I went out tryingevery tactic imaginable when approaching
women, whether it was at a store, the library,
a club, school, or anywhere else.
Well, the answer that none of these wannabe
"experts" knew, but is the REAL truth, is that
not all women are the same. And also, they
forgot to mention, that just because you can
attract a woman, doesn't mean you SHOULD.
In fact, the wrong woman will ruin you
with greater destruction than any other
force on the planet.
You wouldn't want to get "ALL" the women
even if you could.
You want to get the RIGHT woman.
(There is an irony to this as well,
in that when you decide what it is
that you DON'T want, suddenly it
becomes available EVERYWHERE,
because you are not needy for it.)
Most of the dating experts would say things like:
"All women are untrustworthy, so you
better make sure to "game" them".
Then, there was the opposite extreme,
the guys who lived in LA-LA-LAND
with hogwash advice like "All women are
all dainty creatures who all are just special
souls of virtue" and other nonsense.
The reality is that there are certain universal
attractive qualities, yes, I agree, but how these
attractive factors interplay with an individual's
VALUES is a CRUCIAL key to understand
as well- and the way this plays out from woman
to woman differs GREATLY.
You will attract that which you truly ARE,which is different from attracting that whichyou WANT.
So it becomes really important to decide who you truly want to BECOME, becauseit is THAT which you will attract as well.
Most people, men and women included, create fantasies and illusions for themselves,and the one thing these illusions all havein common is the desire to AVOID having to change or to do any work.
So the human instinct is to create allsorts of FALSE beliefs, such as "I will meet a woman because it's alldestiny anyway", and this kind of thinking can make you depend on
miracles and take no action, and
just WAIT a lifetime, with no results.
Also, rather than see our own faults,we tend to make the other person a villain, so we resort to black and whitethinking where we are perfect andthe woman must have been someterrible person, etc, etc.
And of course, many women do this tomen as well.
I've actually found that when it comes down
to it, most men and women are not trying
to hurt each other, but once they are in
pain, they often then oversimplify things
to make the other the villain, and this
doesn't help men or women, it just
fuels MISTRUST, which is probably
the greatest single destroyer of chemistry
and of relationships between men and
women.
So, this is why it's so important to get
rid of jaded thoughts when interacting
with women. Don't let yourself be a
punching bag or make yourself open
to abuse, but don't be so closed off
and self-protective that you are seeing
threats where they don't even exist.
And when people stay with in abusive
relationships, they often rationalize
that things can't get any better anyway.
The bottom line is that whatever behavior
seems EASIER IN THE SHORT TERM
is what people gravitate toward, whether
it seems easier to LEAVE someone or
whether it seems easier to STAY with
someone, it's whatever is EASIER
that allures people to making the
wrong decision.
They forget that the pain of taking this
short-term route will be much GREATER
than the pain of just doing the "harder"
thing right NOW.
This basic TRUTH is what you should
embrace, and you should be looking for
a woman who embraces this truth as
well- the truth that if you want to
improve at anything, relationships,
business, anything, you have to
embrace that taking SHORT CUTS
is NOT the answer.
If you truly care about meeting a woman ofFANTASTIC integrity, of high self-esteem, a woman who will champion TRUTH ratherthan ego, a woman who will not give into temptation, then it's crucial to becomesuch a fantastic person yourself.
This way, you will be so in touch and intimatelyfamiliar with what these fantastic traits look like,that you will notice them from a million milesaway in the RIGHT woman, and you will ALSOnotice the LACK of these traits right awayin the WRONG woman.
Most of the dating guru advice is SOAKED inthe superficial, because they know that mostmen will in fact prefer to believe in that illusion,but I know that there are some more intelligentmen out there that of course want an attractivewoman, but ALSO will not settle on a womanJUST because she's attractive.
If you want the kind of woman you can notonly LUST, but also LOVE and RESPECT,
then you have to be the kind of man that
SHE will feel these emotions for as well.
And to do that, you must have an IRON-STRONGgrip on what are the important things and what arethe trivial, and you must exude that in your everyaction, decision, and the way you spend your"free" time. (The truth is, your time is anythingBUT free, it is the most precious thing you have.)
You must be able to CAPTURE her emotionsand imagination by making your life about
something that INSPIRES you to make every
moment MEANINGFUL.
How do you do this? By combining the following traits:
CHARISMA + INNER STRENGTH + HEART
The dating gurus and their "pick up women" tacticslack GENUINE heart, they lack GENUINE sensitivity, it's all ENGINEERED and artificial.
The "nice guys" lack CHARISMA. The jerks are just overcompensating from insecurity.
They lack the magic combo of:
CHARISMA + INNER STRENGTH + HEART
Now actually HAVING any ONE of these things is
cool, but it's the COMBINATION that works magic.
If you want a great woman, forget the lies, illusions,and marketing schemes.
Instead, get back to:
CHARISMA + INNER STRENGTH + HEART
In my materials, it is THIS combination
that I focus on.
If you haven't yet downloaded my program
"Attraction Accelerators", then definitely
do that IMMEDIATELY.
This program will show you the most powerful and
effective strategies you can apply IMMEDIATELY
when seeing women ANYWHERE, to attract them
QUICKLY.
You can download this program NOW and be using
it TODAY to get the woman you want.
It's at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/attraction-accelerators.html
Till next time...
Michael Marks
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