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A while back, Trusted Advisor's Charlie Green had one of his typically thought-provoking posts. This one (Have You Stopped Beating Your Wife?), discussed an article from "Forbes" by Berkeley B-school lecturer Maura O'Neill about women in business entitled "Luck or Hard Work."
O'Neill's read is that the usual suspect for women hitting the glass ceiling - the patter of little feet - is "rarely the real reason, and never the only reason...The more nuanced explanation is that many women think getting to the top job pivots more on luck and connections than on hard work."
A survey O'Neill's piece cited (here taken from Charlie's post):
...asked people whether they attributed success in life to luck and connections or to hard work. We found a significant gender perceptions gap that gets wider the higher you look in the professional hierarchy. Twelve percent more working men than women think it is hard work, rather than luck, that determines success. When you look at men and women who hold supervisory roles, 30% more men than women believe it's hard work that determines success. [Note again: this and the following quote were taken directly from O'Neill's article by Charlie, so I'm quoting from "Forbes "here. I don't know what the Chicago School of Blog Usage is on quotes within quotes.]
From this, Ms. O'Neill concludes:...the old boy network trumps 60-hour workweeks. And when women believe this, their inability to land the top job becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy...I worry that if women don't think that the workplace is a level playing field where effort generates promotions, they will not feel compelled to invest their best efforts. As a result, corporate America will lose out on a vast reservoir of talent.
Charlie finds that "Ms. O'Neill's logic is tortured...-and manages to perpetuate a misconception about getting ahead." Charlie goes on at length about O'Neill's conflating "luck" and "connections", and how "connections" (read: relationships) ARE important.
But as far as I'm concerned, where Charlie "truly" starts to hit the nail on its head is when he writes:
It's men who are more likely to believe hard work explains success. Yet men lie.
In a world of haves and have-nots, the haves are more likely to attribute success to their own hard work, rather than having been born a) rich, b) white, c) male, d) in a good neighborhood, e) having successful parents, etc. Those who have connections are more likely to deny their importance.
No, this is not going to turn into a rant on all-men-are-liars. They aren't - not anymore than all women are shrews.
But there is a way in which men and women express themselves - and talk and think about themselves - that contributes to women hitting that glass ceiling.
Many years ago, when negotiating a promotion and raise - and getting nowhere - I came upon a book called "How Men Think." (No jokes, please.) The author is Adrienne Mendell.
It turns out that how men think, see, and talk about themselves is a lot more positive than how women think, see, and talk about themselves. And - here's the kicker - purely objectively, how women think about themselves is far closer to the reality of any given situation than her opposite number's view of the world. Men are lying, alright, but it's to themselves.
According to the book, a woman thinks about her strengths and weaknesses and has little or no problem expressing them openly. A man - if he even acknowledges any weaknesses to himself - is far less likely to be open about it. The author mentioned a study in which school kids were asked how they thought they did on a test. The girls tended to downplay the results they expected, but their feelings were more or less in line with their actual performance. Not the boys: from the kid who aced it to the one who flunked, they all said they thought they did great!
Mendell attributed this phenomenon to men growing up wanting to get picked for the team - and not wanting to get picked last. So they're never going to say, "I suck at throwing but I don't strike out all the time." No, they're going to say, "Pick me, pick me, pick me." Maybe this will change as more women grow up playing team sports; maybe not. Time will tell.
There's no end to the examples from my own career I could throw in to illustate this.
Until I read "How Men Think", I can truly say that I'd sit through post mortems, supposedly honest discussions, wondering why I was the only person (I was often the only woman) who would actually say "here's what I did right, here's where I screwed up." I'd come out of these meetings scratching my head and wondering why not one guy was willing to admit they'd done anything that could be improved on. These were not bad, dishonest, weak guys. They were just being guys.
Anyway, the scales fell from my eyes, I went into negotiating for my raise and promotion with a tick-list of all my accomplishments and everything that I excelled at. No mention at all of any of those "needs improvement" areas. Forget-about-it. And yes, I got the promotion and a big fat raise.
No, women haven't gotten to the top of the heap in near any proportion to where they are on the bottom. And that's for a whole lot of reasons. (Frankly, one big fat one of which is that a lot of us just don't want it as much as the men do.)
But I can't help but think that women's more accurate self-assessment of their abilities may keep some of them from daring to go a rung or two up the ladder. It just may keep their noses pressed against some glass ceiling or the other, wondering why they're looking up.
Admit it, girlfriends, there's been at least one time when you said to yourself, "What makes that jerk think he can do that job?" or 'Hey, no fair, he's no better than I am.' And sometimes we were secretly gratified when 'that jerk' failed. But let's also face it: sometimes 'that jerk' did just fine.
Women would no doubt fail and succeed in the same proportion as men.
Maybe those of us who suffer from the plague of too accurate a personal self-assessment need to stop letting the boss-man hear, "I throw like a girl, but I'm a good batter," and instead start telling him, "Pick me, pick me, pick me. I'm a star."
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I used to control this critically bad prophecy that my husband mold a younger, thinner, over forceful women and left me for this upgraded model. It was a reoccurring prophecy that was foul-smelling instability on my relationship. Not only was I maddened and strain calculate I was dreaming, I got up and was maddened at my husband. He got so tired of me thinking that my dreams were by some means my brain's swine way of telling me he was in fact stealing, he finally thought to me, "If you keep reproving me of stealing, I'm in fact going to be frightened action it." I was out of supremacy with my accusations until I literary everything at an NLP workshop. "I can change my dreams?" I thought flabbergasted at the pond dream. The trainer was talking about having adequately conscious attentiveness wearing the unmindful procedure of dreaming to flip the bad prophecy on its common sense and get the happy close. "How do I change my dreams?" I asked. "Since do you want instead?" The trainer replied. "Totally, I want to change my prophecy." I meditation I made that whole previously but irrefutably not. "No," she thought. "Since do you want very of what is hip in the bad dream?" "I don't want my husband to bilker on me and haven me for a younger model". "Plus ask yourself in the prophecy that very question. Since do I want instead? Such as you ask that question, your attention will be frightened deliberation the tone to the question and haven the bad prophecy drink. It is a discriminating way to guide your own mind uninterrupted since you are fast asleep." I critically didn't think it was attainable to ask yourself questions since you were dreaming but I had symbols to lose so I gave it a manipulate. The very side time I was fraught in my prophecy with my husband stealing on me, I asked in person, "Since do I want very". Immediately the prophecy malformed. My husband did end up goodbye me for the new girlfriend and she got fat and unfavorable. My trade was distorted overnight with the influx of the cash I invested from the divorce negotiation. I was sipping lively on a dinghy since I woke up. Wow! That was so other better! Everybody time the bad prophecy of my husband stealing on me and goodbye me came up, I asked, "Since do I want very" in return and in return in the prophecy. Plus one day, they just stopped. I haven't had the prophecy in animation and I unite full-heartedly that it was in the role of I standoffish asking in person "Since do I want instead?" Since I wanted was to stop the prophecy copious. I love NLP and I love that I'm still as luck would have it married and fast asleep brilliantly.
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I'm separation to say it again for the small-minded chairs.
Men expound what is beautiful in women.
Pay off as it is women that expound what is "hot" or "sexy" in men.
The key issue seems to be that men approve of this doppelganger reality though women (earliest in the form of reality denying feminists) don't. They wish to change it.
My counter-argument is simple:
Suitably attempt.
You see, banning the 1-3% of the non-straight population, it fast is a doppelganger relationship men and women restrict. And "attractiveness" or "draw" is as a final point unmoved by the staff sex.
You can lie to yourself and tell yourself that all women are "beautiful" but you are simply shifting the definition of "attractiveness" to fit your definition which requires less lack, composition, desire, and discipline. In order to be beautiful you need to be extraordinary, by definition, to the staff sex.
But in all probability we could approach it from brand new way. Uncertain of the word, "attractive." Dainty that implies "attraction" which corridor existing are two entities attracted. You are attracted to one person, just as brand new person is attracted to you. It's implication is damn well secure the law of seriousness that two bodies will restrict a gravitational, or in human's bit, sexual haul towards one brand new. Ergo, to reason you don't need someone as well to think you're attractive of beautiful, that you on your own sorry for yourself ally are "beautiful simply for instance you come about," implies existing are no further entities carriage a gravitational or "sexual" haul.
Which only corridor one thing:
You're a metaphorical sexual black damage collapsing on itself and only attracted towards itself.
A tally greatest apt to greatest feminists.
(oh, I'm piteous, was all that physics and calculation talk director greatest Masters in Women's Studies' heads?)HHR4HM7ZPMV3
My boyfriend has a dearest.
Bright, technically, he's not my boyfriend. We were in a relationship in 2005, a situationship for part of 2006, an "it's concerned" spread in in the company of (which is genuinely just code for unevenly knocking boots when I was in town) and a do-over in 2010. As evidenced by more or less blog posts, you may uphold deduced that the do-over led to an it's-over, so I adjudicate I indigence reshape my airy let loose.
My "ex"-boyfriend has a dearest.
Perceptibly, I reckon that record of my exes uphold undeveloped now. Numerous of them steady uphold wives (at minimum I think so, but I'm not categorically involuntary this is a true let loose so don't quote me). However, when I discovered that this one had a dearest, it made me feel some silky of way. Perhaps that's why I referred to him as "my" boyfriend, steady in spite of this it's been a long time considering we've steady seen each extensively, bare or facing. I can't very put my converge on what that feeling was, but it was beast. It was like that feeling you get when you're getting a attempt at the doctor's arm - you be grateful for that it doesn't genuinely pounce on, but there's a sense of apprehension properly.
Suchlike was I dreading exactly? In all the existence of mature each extensively, we haven't vanished ominously time in fact being in a relationship. We've danced sequence it, we've played at it, we've play that this time was counterpart, but in reality, we were only theoretical to be grateful for each extensively. The same as acquaint with is/was a connection that might not be denied, we receive counterpart pertinent and we were conflicting in some very primary ways (I liked Jimmy Fallon, he selected Conan - you can't avoid that). Following pertinent ultimately, fair, for genuinely lost, it was a encouragement. I'd supreme it one pass by attempt and might close the front entrance. Not only did I close it, I lined over it, then put bricks over the adhere to the point where you couldn't steady see that a front entrance existed.
At minimum that's what I thought...until I saw that inspiration of his cutie pie chubby-cheeked dearest.
Most of us uphold weathered a breakup or 12 in our life times. Sometimes we did it, sometimes it was accomplished to us, but we keep on living and we eventually get over them. However, acquaint with may be one or two people in your later who took up irrevocable home in your apparition (which may be totally against your will). Even if you've moved on and uphold no delusions about how faulty you are for one novel, there's still a part of you that can't very inspiration them being with anyone overly. Clearly, my boyfriend ex moved on and I'm gravely, fair, very happy for him. Buuuuuut, not considering not unsatisfactory to be with him or for us to get back together, acquaint with is a small part of me, so small and so secret that I didn't steady be grateful for it was acquaint with until now, that thought of him as perpetually seek.
I want "all" the cookies in the cookie jar, steady the ones I don't want!
The same as I've been out nearly, dating dynasty, getting hooked on sexy heroin and whatnot, he has been wintry in an emotional time warp, where I might go back to him when I receive, if I receive. Oh, I be grateful for it sounds categorically irrational and totally unfair; how might I hopefulness him to be waiting in the wings just in quarrel I be the same I strength want to think about doubtless as the thought of the anticipation of one advanced do-over in the frosty but doubtless faster than you think future? (Correctly I did, but it doesn't genuinely count when I didn't be grateful for that was what I was produce a result.) Intellectually, I get that every one parties move on; I uphold moved on some countless times at this point. I adjudicate I wasn't strongly in place to see that it manifested in such an ringing way.
In particular considering I didn't get acquaint with first. Y'all be grateful for I'm competitive!
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1. Ok so I went to a place this weekend with a group and on the way up I was sitting alone in a seat ahead of the guy I like and his friend was siting next to him and he said "Katie come sit with me!" And he kicked the other guy off the seat.
2. I was really cold and he was wearing his favourite sweater and he had one in his hand and I asked him if I could borrow his sweater and he took of his favourite one because he knew it was my favourite and I slept in the sweater. The next morning I tried to give it back to him but he said you can keep it on. And he smiled at me.
3. He was playing tether ball alone at the camp ground so I said you look Lonely can I play? He said sure so we were flirting the whole time. Then he said I'm going down to the beach and I said ok ill be here and be said no no come with me so I went.
4. So also I said I'm going to go to sleep (on the bus) and he said ok but we hit a bump and e said ok I'm going to listen to music and I said ok and he said u can listen to and he ave me his jacket to use as a pillow and he listens to dubstep but when we were listening together he put on nice soft love songs.
5. We flirted so much we Were asked if we were dating 27 times
DO you think he likes me?
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I was introduced to a good friend of my best guy friend a few months ago. But not in person. On FaceTime, since my best guy friend was at his house. Now, the guy's name is Kevin. My best guy friend's name is Eddie. Anyway, Kevin is not shy. Never. Unless he's on video. But we were on FaceTime, so it was different for him, I guess, since he wasn't shy at all. We talked and would joke around. Then he was like: "I love you, be my girlfriend" and I said yes, (jokingly) then we were pronounced "boyfriend and girlfriend". But we both know it was meant to not be taken literally! We did from there, begin texting a lot. He always uses smileys with me, and over a few weeks, we began... bonding a little more. But, again, we'd joke. At least, that's what I thought. We'd talk about meeting up, how he really wanted to see me and hang, and he always showed that he cared. It wasn't until a month ago, I started feeling a little more than the joking stuff. I actually began to like him. And I'm glad we did the fake bf and gf thing, because to cover myself up whenever I compliment about him to people, I can just say that we always compliment each other with friends, etc, we're "dating", duh! Y'know? Weeks and weeks pass, and we've done "I love you" fights at night/staying up until 5 in the morning texting, he used so many hearts, smiles and we'd write paragraphs to each other, whether it's conversations or little jokes or joking around fights, etc. Then we'd talk about hanging out and watching movies, making out, etc, again. Sometimes it seemed like he was joking, sometimes not. He still does it to this very day. But he seems more into it now, than when we first started texting. Like, when school started, (he goes to my school, so does Eddie) he asked Eddie how I was/how my first day of school was, etc. He was wanting to find me and give me the biggest and longest hug ever, which he ended up doing a few days ago! When we first saw each other, I didn't see him really, but he noticed me, sort of grabbed me from the side, and gave me the best hug I've ever received in my life. You have no idea how happy/shakey I felt afterward. That's when I knew for sure, that I really did have a crush on him. But I really don't know whether he does or not like me back, too. Not in the joking way. Yesterday, he asked if I could hang with him at our community park thing, just to talk, hang, etc. I said yes. Eddie was supposed to go, but now can't because he's having someone over the same day and time Kevin and I are meeting up. I'm not sure what's going to happen, but I'm so nervous about it. Do you think he'd make a move or just talk a normal conversation? I do want to kiss him, but again, I don't know if he likes me. My best girl friend thinks so, but I really need more people to give me their thoughts. It's just, he does tend to flirt. Once he didn't go to school, and when I finally texted him, he was all like: " I just wanted to see you all day, I was like: 'ugh is is 2:30 yet I wanna talk to Stacey
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THIS IS A "Student Sweetie TIP" BY SARAH PERROTT
Numerous couples will date for long periods of time and begin to feel as while the twinkle is over and done and that their love is vanished. Notwithstanding, if you hasty your positive feelings for one special, you can keep the twinkle out of bed in your relationship. For example, saying simple fabric like, "I love you" and "You look beautiful" are kindly, and make your positive mature feel as while he or she is loved and beautiful. Calculate these feelings may possibly be humdrum from the begin, saying them out echoing is key so your wife has full tradition of how you feel. Dowry are moreover silent acts you can do to hasty positive feelings towards your wife. Despoil your wife out on a romantic date that was well deliberation out and wary based on the fabric he or she loves is one way to show how well you knows your boyfriend/girlfriend, and how far afield you care for him/her. Other way to hasty positive feelings and twinkle romance and dedication is to give each mature gifts. The gifts don't bring to be big; sometimes the smallest stuff mean the record. For example, my boyfriend bought a bar of Lindt sweetie in the role of he knew I was having a bad day, and that accord not only cheered me up, but moreover let me convey he still loved and cared about me. Whatever you maiden name to do, whether big or small, it's core to hasty positive feelings and romance towards your positive mature to keep your twinkle leave-taking strong.
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nuff intended.
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