Others abort, illegally.
The big question asked in this article is why is this happening?
Fear is mentioned in the story - social stigma, not knowing where to go.
Sex in Malaysia is still a taboo, and what and how to introduce sex education in schools is still debated. While the authorities debate, teenagers and pre-teens know about sex already. Heck, even my kid asks me, and he is eight!
If a girl gets pregnant, the sky is coming down. Not only in Asia, but all across the world. I believe that is no father or mother around who wishes their daughter gets pregnant when she is 14, 15, 16, or, may be even 20. Or, that their son is coming one evening and says that his girlfriend is pregnant. Way too young.
It can happen, nevertheless, don't be fooled. There is no way that rules and regulations, laws or whatever can prevent or separate gender from getting engaged with each other. Children and teens get to know about sex very early nowadays and if the "older generation" doesn't talk about it and educate, open and honest, without threats but with trust, then unwanted pregnancies happen. It is not possible to forbid sex, and it is clear that sex is entering children's life earlier and earlier. No judgment about this.
If it happens, trust and confidence HAS to be there. There is no other way around. The trust of the girl (but this doesn't exclude the boy) that she can go to the parents and confess to her pregnancy. That she has the trust and confidence that there is empathy, understanding, tolerance and more in the parents. Gosh, parents were not always angels when they were young either. I wasn't, for one!
Only, and only if this feelings exist will the girl be able to stand up to what happened. If it is not existing (and read this as contrasting view), and blame is prevalent, if there is the fear that she is shown the door - "what will the neighbours say?", may be if she gets beaten, then, there is the high possibility that she is trying to hide the boyfriend, that she or he engages in sex, and may be a pregnancy.
I don't believe that to leave a baby somewhere is an easy decision.
Just imagine the choices. The choice is that she either has to go to her parents and confess to pregnancy or tries to hide the pregancy, delivers the baby secretly and leaves the baby somewhere. Ask yourself: How much fear and mistrust must someone have to go for the second option?
Something terribly wrong and very, very sad is taking place here.
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