should I do to keep this spark sizzling as far as the first date is concerned? In other words, what would be the best plan for the first date?
Answer: The first date is going to be the ice breaker. It's where you both get to feel one another out. My suggestion is this
1) Don't put any expectations on the outcome. It can be easy to play out in your head the date going a certain way and if it doesn't, you could get discouraged and thrown off. That being said, make a promise to yourself that no matter how she acts you're going to have fun. This is so important. Woman want a guy who's FUN! And also, if she throws a curveball (which probably won't happen) you'll be ready and be able to adapt accordingly.
2) Don't try to impress her. She's already agreed to go on a date with you which means she already has some initial interest in you. A lot of men try too hard to say the right things. Just be yourself and don't worry if you say something uncool or goofy. Your natural uninhibited self is your best self
3)Have a couple of stories you can relate to and talk about. What do you like to do? What interesting things can you talk about in your life. If often quiet and tend to run out of things to say with people spend a half hour before the date just talking out loud. Read a book. Sing a song. Get out of your head and become comfortable articulating your thoughts and speaking about your life.
4) Ask interesting questions. As it's a first date you're probably going to get the run of the mill (what do you do? where are you from?) interview type questions. It's inevitable. But try mixing it up as well and dig deeper by asking "how did it make you feel when.) or what was it like when X? Good questions can open the conversation flood gates and allow to really get to KNOW someone.
5) Listen to her. Don't just pretend to listen. Actually hear what she has to say, understand where's coming from and try to feel what she feels when she's speaking. Empathy allows you to connect with another person on a very intimate leve. From her listening ask relevant questions (ie omg what was the like? Was it hard for you when you") etc
6) Make good eye contact. The window to the soul is in the eyes. When speaking and listening don't be afraid to hold her gaze just a little bit longer than normal. Believe it or not, attraction alone can be generated from making the right kind of eye contact.
7) Dress to impress. Don't wear something you wouldn't normally wear. But sport your finest threads. All the little things make a difference. This also includes grooming- shower, floss, teeth, hair, etc. You want to take care of everything that is in your control and how you look is 100% in your hands.
Cheers,
Briddick
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