Popular Psychology Making Changes Intention Hypnosis Nlp Goal Setting

On the level of self and accomplishment, as we learn how our mind works, we can begin to use tools to achieve change and betterment in our lives. We can learn to focus better, make more money, lose weight, eat better, etc. Not only that, we can use the same tools to further our meditation and connection to being. There are many facets to living an optimal life. We do want to be careful that we don't get too attached to that betterment. Self and ego are attached to these wants, so we need to watch how we apply the tools I'll be talking about today. But the tools are very useful nonetheless. Today's show will be a brief overview of the power of Intention Setting, Hypnosis, Neural Linguistic Programming, Hemi Sync, Goal Setting and Positive Thinking. All of these "technologies" affect our opinions and beliefs, and hence our perception of the world. Referenced: Tony Robbins

How To Read A Woman Mind

This is a very vast topic, and almost endless in content, but I would summarize the greatest possible details, related with courting/ wooing/ attracting/ impressing any girl. 1) LISTEN TO YOUR CONSCIENCE. Don't ignore it right away. Guys have this big habit of making their own explanations in order to satisfy and ignore the truth. If ever you feel ignored, but she gives you an excuse or an explanation as to why it happened, and she didn't mean it. Just give her one chance right-away. And if that happens again, and she repeats her excuses/ blahblah, understand that something is wrong. IF YOU ARE HER BOYFRIEND:Your Break-up will happen soon. IF YOU ARE HER FRIEND:- Your days are soon to be over, as someone she is very close to, doesn't like you. - She doesn't like you. - You are being too sticky, or coming too loud with your love, and she is ignoring you. 2) IF SHE HAS AN ATTITUDE. Don't fire back with an attitude, but don't be submissive. There is something called self-respect, don't let her hurt you there. Men have the tendency of accepting women as they come. But you don't have to accept them, you have make them accept you; and that is what women love - they love to be ruled. (don't take it in the wrong anarchy sort of way)Now if she has an attitude, it means she is very emotional. She is the extremist kind of person, and by attitude I mean, if she is rude and comes out too strong. I don't mean pompous and showy. An attitude is always a result of some wound:- SHE HAS A BIG GIANT CRATER OF DADDY ISSUES BOILING INSIDE (NOT FOR INDIAN MEN)- SHE HAD HAD A BAD BREAK-UP, AND NOW SHE HAS DECIDED NEVER TO LET ANOTHER MAN TREAT HER THAT WAY. - SHE HAS HAD SOME ROUGH TIMES IN HER LIFE. (UNFORTUNATE)- A DEFENSE MECHANISM TO PROVE THAT SHE IS NOT WEAK (OR INFERIOR) (WHICH SHE IS)With this type, you just need to man up! Don't be childish, don't submit, whenever you talk, talk little but effecting (sensible) - do your homework. These type of women get attracted towards two types: 1) One who don't need to be dominated. 2) Those who can't be dominated. (TO BE CONTINUED)

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16K Human Touch album lyrics@ALBUM: Human TouchArtist: Bruce Springsteen1992 Columbia RecordsAll selections by Bruce Springsteen unless noted.
@SONG: Human TouchYou and me we were the pretendersWe let it all slip awayIn the end what you don't surrenderWell the world just strips awayGirl ain't no kindness in the face of strangersAin't gonna find no miracles hereWell you can wait on your blessings darlin'But I got a deal for you right hereI ain't lookin' for prayers or pityI ain't comin round searchin' for a crutchI just want someone to talk toAnd a little of that human touchJust a little of that human touchAin't no mercy on the streets of this townAin't no bread from heavenly skiesAin't nobody drawin' wine from this bloodIt's just you and me tonightTell me in a world without pityDo you uthink what I'm askin's too much?I just want something to hold on toAnd a little of that human touchJust a little of that human touchOh girl that feeling of safety you prizeWell it comes with a hard hard priceYou can't shut off the risk and painWithout losin' the love that remainsWe're all riders on this trainSo you been broken and you been hurtShow me soomebody who ain'tYeah I know I ain't nobody's bargainBut hell a little touchupAnd a little paint...You might need somethin' to hold on toWhen all the answers they don't amount to muchSomebody that you can just talk toAnd a little of that human touchBaby in a world without pityDo you think what I'm askin's too much?I just want to feel you in my armsAnd share a little of that human touch...
@SONG: Soul DriverRode through forty nights of the gospels' rainBlck sky pourin' snkes frogsAnd love in vainYou were down where the river grows widerBaby let me be your soul driverWell if something in the air feels a little unkindDon't worry darlin'It'll slip your mindI'll be your gypsy joker your shotgun riderBaby let me be your soul driverNow no one knows which way love's wheel turnsWill we hit it richOr crash and burnDoes fortune wait or just the black hand of fateThis love potion's all we've gotOne toast before it's too lateIf the angels are unkind or the season is darkOr if in the endLove just falls partThen here's to our destructionBaby let me be your soul driver
@SONG: 57 Channels (And Nothin' On)I bought a bourgeois house in the Hollywood hillsWith a trunkload of hundred thousand dollar billsMan came by to hook up my cable TVWe settled in for the night my baby and meWe switched 'round and 'round 'til half-past dawnThere was fifty-seven channels and nothin' onWell now home entertainment was my baby's wishSo I hopped into town for a satellite dishI tied it to the top of my Japanese carI came home and pointed it out into the starsA message came back from the great beyondThere's fifty-seven channels and nothin' onWell we might'a made some friends with some billionairesWe might'a got all nice and friendlyIf we'd made it upstairsAll I got was a note that said, "Bye-bye JohnOur love is fifty-seven channels and nothin' on."So I bought a.44 magnum it was solid steel castAnd in the blessed name of Elvis well I just let it blast'Til my TV lay in pieces there at my feetAnd they busted me for disturbin' the almighty peaceJudge said, "What you got in your defense son?""Fifty-seven channels and nothin' on"I can see by your eyes friend you're just about goneFifty-seven channels and nothin' onFifty-seven channels and nothin' on
@SONG: Cross My Heart(Bruce Springsteen/Sonny Boy Williamson)First time I crossed my heartI was beggin' baby pleaseAt your bedside down on my kneesWhen I crossed my heartWhen I crossed my heartI crossed my heart pretty baby over youSecond time I crossed my heartRain came in from the southI was lyin' there with something sweet and salty in my mouthWhen I crossed my heartWhen I crossed my heartI crossed my heart pretty darlin' over youWell you may think the world's black and whiteAnd you're dirty or you're cleanYou better watch out you don't sllipThrough them spaces in betweenWhere the night gets stickyAnd the sky gets blackI grabbed you baby you grabbed me backAnd we crossed our heartsWe crossed our heartsYeah I crossed my heart...Little boys little girlsThey know their wrongs from their rightsOnce you cross your heartYou ain't ever supposed to lieWell life ain't nothin'But cold hard rideI ain't leavin til I'm satisfiedI cross my heartYeah I cross my heartWell I cross my heart pretty darlin' over you
@SONG: Gloria's EyesI was your big man I was your prince charmingKing ona white horse hey now look how far I've fallenI tried to trick you yeah but baby you got wiseYou cut me right down to sizeNow I'm just a fool in Gloria's eyesSwore I'd get you back I was so sureI'd get you back like I done so many times beforeA little sweet talk to cover over all of the liesYou came runnin' back but to my surpriseWell there's somethin' gone in Gloria's eyesWell in the dark when it was just me and youI asked the question that I knew the answer toIs that a smile my little dolly on the shelfTell me is that a smileOr is it somethin' else?Now I work hard to prove my love is trueNow I work hard and I bring it on home to youAt night I pray as silently you lieSome day my love agin will riseLike a shining torch in Gloria's eyesI was your big man your prince charmingKing ona white horse now look how far I've fallen
@SONG: With Every WishOl' catfish in the lake we called him Big JimWhen I was a kid my only wish ws to get my line in himSkipped church one Sunday rowed out and throw'd in my lineJim took that hook pole and me right over the sideWent driftin' down past old tires and rusty cans of beerThe angel of the lake whispered in my ear"Before you choose your wish sonYou better think firstWith every wish there comes a curse."I fell in love with beautiful DoreenShe was the prettiest thing this old town'd ever seenI courted her and I made her mineBut I grew jealous whenever another man'dCome walkin' down the lineAnd my jealousy made me treat her hard and cruelShe sighed, "Bobby oh Bobby you're such a fool.Don't you know before you choose your wishYou'd better think first'Cause with every wish there comes a curse."These days I sit around and laughAt the many rivers I've crossedBut on the far bnks there's always another forestWhere a man can get lostWell there in the high trees love's bluebird glidesGuiding us 'cross to another river on the other sideAnd there someone is waitin' with a look in her eyesAnd though my heart's grown wearyAnd more than a little bit shyTonight I'll drink from her waters to quench my thirstAnd leave the angels to worryWith every wish there comes a curse
@SONG: Roll of the Dice(Bruce Springsteen/Roy Bittan)Well I've been a losin' gamblerJust throwin' snake eyesLove ain't got me downheartedI know up around the corner liesMy fool's paradiseIn just another roll of the diceAll my elevens and sevens been comin' upSixes and ninesBut since I fell for you babyBeen comin' on changin' timesThey're waitin' over the riseJust another roll of the diceI've stumbled and I know I made my mistakesBut tonight I'm gonna be playin' for all of the stakesWell it's never too late so come on girlThe tables are waitingYou and me and lady luck well tonightWe'll be celebratingDrinkin' champagne on iceIn just another roll of the diceHigh-rollers lay down your bets and I'll raise 'emWell I know the odds ain't in my favorMaybe I'm just a clown throwin' downLookin' to come up bustedI'm a thief in the house of loveAnd I can't be trustedWell I'll be makin' my heistIn just another roll of the diceJust another roll of the diceMove on upCome on sevenRoll me babyIn this fool's heaven
@SONG: Real World(Bruce Springsteen/Roy Bittan)Mister trouble come walkin' this wayYear gone past feels like one long dayBut I'm alive and I'm feelin' all rightWell I run that hard road outta heartbreak cityBuilt a roadside carnival out of hurt and self-pityIt was all wrong well now I'm movin' onCHORUSAin't no church bells ringingAin't no flags unfurledJust me and you and the love we're bringingInto the real worldInto the real worldI built a shrine in my heart it wasn't pretty to seeMade out of fool's gold memory and tears criedNow I'm headin' over the riseI'm searchin' for one clear moment of love and truthI still got a little faithBut what I need is some proof tonightI'm lookin' for it in your eyesCHORUSWell tonight I just wanna shoutI feel my soul waist deep and sinkin'Into this black river of doubtI just wanna rise and walk along the riversideAnd when the morning comes baby I don't wanna hideI'll stand right at your side with my arms open wideWell tonight I just wanna shoutI feel my soul waist deep and sinkin'Into this black river of doubtI just wanna rise and walk along the riverside'Til the morning comesI'll stand right by your sideI wanna find some answers I wanna ask for some helpI'm tired of runnin' scaredBaby let's get our bags packedWe'll take it here to hell and heaven and backAnd if love ois hopeless hopeless at bestCome on put on your party dress it's ours tonightAnd we're goin' with the tumblin' diceCHORUS
@SONG: All Or Nothin' at AllSaid you'd give me just a little kissand you'd rock me for a little whileWell you'd slip me just a piece of itListen up my little childI want it all or nothin' at allI want it all or nothin' at allSid you'd take me for a little danceIf youu had a little time on your handsWell all I do is push and shoveJust to get a little piece of your loveI want it all or nothin' at allI want it all or nothin' at allWell now I don't wanna be greedyBut when it coms sto lvoe there ain't no doubtYou just ain't gonna get what y you wantWith one foot in bed and one foot outYou got to give it all or nothin' at allAll or nothin' at allNow I only got a little timeSo if you're gonna change your mindThen shout out what you're thinkin' ofIf what you're thinkin' of is loveI want it all or nothin' at allI want it all or nothin' at allI want to have it all or nothin' at allI want it all or nothin' at allI want it all or nothin' at allI want to give it all or nothin' at all
@SONG: Man's JobWell you can go out with himPlay with all of his toysBut takin' care of you darlin'Ain't for one of the boysOh there's somethin' in your soulThat he's gonna robAnd lovin' you baby lovin' you darlin'Lovin' you woman is a man's man's jobLovin' you's a man's job babyLovin' you's a man's jobLovin' you's a man's job babyLovin' you's a man's jobWell now his kisses may thrillthose other girls that he likesBut when it comes sto treatin'A real woman rightWell all of his tricksNo they won't be enough'Cause lovin' you baby lovin' you womanLovin' you darlin' is a man's man's jobLovin' you's a man's job babyLovin' you's a man's jobLovin' you's a man's job babyLovin' you's a man's jobYou're dancin' with him he's holding you tightI'm standing here waitin' to catch your eyeYour hand's on his neck as the music swaysAll my illusions slip awayNow if you're lookin' for a heroSomeone to save the dayWell darlin' my feetThey're made of clayBut I've got somethin' in my soulAnd I wanna give it upBut gettin' up the nerveGettin' up the nerveGettin' up the nerve is a man's man's jobLovin' you's a man's job babyLovin' you's a man's jobLovin' you's a man's job womanLovin' you's a man's job
@SONG: I Wish I Were BlindI love to see the cottonwood blossomIn the early springI love to see the message of loveThat the bluebird bringsBut when I see you walkin' with himDown along the strandI wish I were blindWhen I see you with your manI love to see your hair shiningIn the long summer's lightI love to watch the stars fill the skyOn a summer nightThe music plays you take his handI watch how you touch him as you start to danceAnd I wish I were blindWhen I see you with your manWe struggle here but all our love's in vainOh these eyes that once filled me with your beautyNow fill me with painAnd the light that once entered hereIs banished from meAnd this darkness is all baby that my heart seesAnd thoug this world is filledWith the grace and beauty of God's handOh I wish I were blindWhen I see you with your man
@SONG: The Long GoodbyeMy soul went walkin' but I stayed hereFeel like I been workin' for a thousand yearsChippin' away at this chain of my own liesClimbin' a wall a hundred miles highWell I woke up this morning on the other sideYeah yeah this is the long goodbyeHey yeah this is the long goodbyeSame old faces it's the same old townWhat once was laughs is draggin' me nowWaitin' on rain hangin' on for loveWords of forgiveness from some God aboveAin't no words of mercy comin' from on highyeah yeah just one long goodbyeWell I went to leave twenty years agoSince then I guess I been packin' kinda slowSure did like that admirin' touchGuess I liked it a little too muchThe moon is high and here I amSittin' here with this hammer in my handOne more drink oughta ease the painStarin' at that last link in the chainWell let's raise our glass and let the hammer flyhey yeah this is the long goodbyeHey yeah this is the long goodbyeKiss me baby and we're gonna flyHey yeah this is the long goodbyeYeah yeah this is the long goodbyeHey yeah this is the long goodbyeKiss me baby 'cause we're gonna rideYeah yeah this is the long goodbye
@SONG: Real ManTook my baby to a picture showFound a seat in the back rowSound came up lights went downRambo he was blowin em downI don't need no gun in my fist babyAll I need is your sweet kissTo get me feelin' like a real manFeelin' like a real manWell you can beat on your chestHell any monkey canBut you got me feelin' like a real manOh feelin' like a real manMe and my girl Saturday nightLate movie on channel fiveThe girls were droppin' they're droppin' like fliesTo some smooth talkin' cool walkin' private eyeI ain't got no nerves of steelBut all I got to know is if your love is realo get me feelin' like a real manOh feelin' like a real manWell you can beat on your chestHell any monkey canYour love's got me feelin' like a real manOh feelin' like a real manI ain't no fighter that's easy to seeAnd as a lover I ain't goin' down in historyBut when the lights go down and you pull me closeWell I look in your eyes and there's one thing I knowBaby I'll be tough enoughIf I can find the guts to give you all my loveThen I'll be feelin' like a real manFeelin' like a real manWell you can beat on your chestHell any monkey canYou got me feelin' like a real manOh feelin' like a real manYeah I been feelin' like a real manFeelin' like a real man
@SONG: Pony Boy(Trad./Arr. Bruce Springsteen)Pony boy pony boyWon't you be my pony boyGiddy-up giddy-up giddy-up whoaMy pony boyRide with me ride with meWon't you take a ride with meUnderneath the starry skyMy pony boyO'er the hills and through the treesWe'll go ridin' you and meGiddy-up giddy-up giddy-awayMy pony boyDown into the valley deep'Neath the eves we will sleepSky of dreams up aboveMy pony boy Eric Wincentsen267@ef.gc.maricopa.eduGlendale Community College Glendale, Arizona"Welcome to Arizona...NOW GO HOME!"
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By Donna Beley

Any marriage in trouble is always salvageable. Counseling sessions with a Naples psychologist can show ways to resolve the most serious problem. It may be possible to return to the loving relationship that existed on their wedding day.

Life is bound to present some disagreements and difficulties to a marriage. A couple will be able to dispel them if they put forth the effort. Change and resolution is possible.

The psychologist will bring about an understanding through a series of counseling sessions. The couple will be helped to remember a happier time and rekindle the desire to return to that time. There must have been an attraction originally, or they would not have married.

In any case, it is worth three months of marriage counseling to try to rebuild the relationship before giving up. The counselor will show the ways to work towards strengthening it. Asking them the right questions can lead to them understanding what they really feel.

Communication patterns can be good or bad. When bad, they can be changed. Since communication is the pathway to understanding each other, improving these patterns will help the married couple gain intimacy and grow close to each other once again.

Every relationship has difficulties at one time or another. Finding the way to get through them without losing sight of the love is certainly possible. The couple must believe there is a reason to stay together.

Financial matters can be a serious point of contention. She might buy too many dresses. He may go out with his friends and buy too many drinks. To compromise, perhaps she can limit her shopping if he will limit his nights out with friends.

If each partner is spending an equal amount on things that are not necessary, they can forgive each other those extravagances. That will reduce the amount of anger they feel. If anger is taken out of the equation, they may avoid the pain of a divorce.

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Photo: Ryan Tansey "I THINK IF I TOOK THERAPY, THE DOCTOR WOULD QUIT. HE'D JUST PICK UP THE COUCH AND WALK OUT OF THE ROOM." -DON RICKLES" Okay, I'm guessing that Don Rickles is right - a client like him would encourage many psychologists and psychiatrists to take up plumbing for a living! Most clients aren't like that. But too many clients have misconceptions about therapy that keep their sessions less productive than they could be. Therapists spend countless hours learning their profession. They're there to help people. Yet the one who has the most impact on the success of a therapy - the client - is rarely coached on their part in their own healing and progress. Coming from our "give-me-a-pill-and-make-it-go-away-now" culture, we often walk into our therapist's office, hand him or her our messy bag of problems and issues, then wait for them to fix it. Oh, we know we'll have to answer some questions and dig into our personal muck a bit. But in general, we're expecting the person with those credentials on the wall to do all the heavy lifting. But great therapists know that if their clients knew certain concepts about life and themselves, not only would they achieve the results they wanted in therapy, they would have the tools to handle more of their issues "without" a therapist's services. In the Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) I teach, we talk about several presuppositions that make therapy sessions and NLP techniques powerful and effective. When a client doesn't understand or won't accept these concepts, we know that, no matter what techniques we use or how much time we spend, the therapy will be less impactful than it otherwise could have been. And when the session is done, odds are that the client will continue to create unnecessary obstacles and difficulties on their journey. Here are a few of the basics that, if understood and applied, can help you dissolve and resolve many of the issues in your life - with or without therapy: #1 RESPECT FOR OTHER PEOPLE'S REALITY. Rather than imposing our model of the world on others, honoring what others think and feel as valid and real for them goes a long way to keep communication clear. Take the example of a teenager who thinks her life is over because she can't get the latest electronic device to keep up with the "popular kids" at school. As her parent, you may not agree that the latest smartphone is a life-or-death issue. But though the pressure she feels may not be "real" or significant to you, it is to her. You can respect her point of view (without adopting it yourself) by saying, "I understand that you feel stressed about this and I want to help. I don't feel good about spending that kind of money on this. But I'm open to ideas about how you could earn it. And I'd also like to understand why it's important to you and what alternatives there might be to help you feel better." Okay, anyone with a teenage child knows that this is "not" exactly how the conversation would go! But can you see the difference it might make to the other person when you acknowledge their truth? Rather than cutting off communication, when you honor another person's point of view, you open up the channels and deepen the relationship. Whether it's your child, a co-worker, spouse, friend or customer, everyone appreciates being listened to with respect. #2 PEOPLE ARE NOT THEIR BEHAVIORS. You are not defined by what you do or have done - and neither are others. We can respect the person (or ourselves) while still disliking a behavior and desiring to change it. We tend to default to labels. Someone who has cheated becomes a cheater. A person who failed to follow through is unreliable. That guy who just cut you off in traffic is a jerk! Labelling others by their behaviors has many ramifications. For one, it leaves us stuck and gives us less ability to grow and evolve. Think about it: Can a jerk be turned into a non-jerk? Probably not. But can someone who cuts others off in traffic learn to drive a bit slower and use her blinker? Much more likely. This same concept can be applied to ourselves. Say that you have a history of paying your bills late or over-drawing your checking account. If you label yourself as "bad with money," it feels like an uphill battle. You've defined and judged yourself with a label and now need to change "who you are". But what if you merely look at changing the specific behaviors and figuring out the steps you need to take? Doesn't that feel more possible and empowering? #3 EVERYONE IS DOING THE BEST THEY CAN BASED ON THEIR CURRENT RESOURCES. We're all doing the best we can based on our current knowledge, understanding, and maturity level. 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